Résumés
Résumé
Le présent essai a pour objectif de donner un aperçu – non pas une revue exhaustive – des résultats de recherche sur l’association couple – bonheur. Il existe une corrélation universelle et présente à toutes les périodes de la vie. De plus, il apparaît que la relation maritale doit être nourrie et qu’elle doit évoluer pour durer. Les résultats appuient également l’idée qu’il faut un certain temps pour que se dissipe l’effet du mariage, du divorce et du veuvage. Enfin, des études récentes font état d’une relation négative entre la cohabitation et le bonheur, mais les résultats ne sont pas concluants. En conclusion, il est suggéré d’effectuer un important travail d’éducation auprès des jeunes qui abordent la vie de couple sans préparation. Il y aurait lieu de poursuivre la recherche sur la cohabitation, particulièrement dans la société québécoise.
Mots-clés :
- couple,
- mariage,
- cohabitation,
- bonheur,
- amour
Abstract
The aim of this essay is to present an overview – not a systematic review – of the results of research on the association between marriage and happiness : an universal correlation which exists at all periods of our life. In addition, the marital relation must be fed and must evolve to last. The results support the idea that it take a certain time for the effect of marriage, divorce and widowhood to disappear. Finally, recent studies show that cohabitation is negatively associated with happiness, but the results are inconclusive. In conclusion, we suggest that it would useful to educate young peoples about married life since they often address it without preparation. It would be also important to pursuit the research on cohabitation, especially in the Québec society.
Keywords:
- couple,
- marriage,
- cohabitation,
- happiness,
- love
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