Résumés
Résumé
La non-monogamie consensuelle (NMC) est un concept qui englobe toutes les formes de relations intimes dans lesquelles les partenaires se permettent, en toute transparence, de vivre des expériences sexuelles et/ou amoureuses au-delà du traditionnel couple dyadique. À ce jour, peu de recherches ont été consacrées à la famille dans ce contexte conjugal non traditionnel. À partir de 34 entrevues semi-dirigées menées auprès de parents canadiens polyamoureux ou en couple ouvert, nous explorerons dans cet article la façon dont ces derniers conjuguent pluriconjugalité et famille. Plus précisément, nous examinerons les raisons qui sous-tendent le choix des parents d’informer ou non leurs enfants de leur mode relationnel et d’intégrer leurs partenaires intimes dans leur vie familiale. Les entrevues mettent en lumière quatre grands thèmes influençant le dévoilement aux enfants : 1) les enjeux d’acceptation sociale/légale de la diversité conjugale/familiale ; 2) la perception quant à la capacité des enfants à comprendre les enjeux de sexualité/conjugalité ; 3) la certitude ou l’incertitude du parent face à ses choix conjugaux ; et 4) les limites ou avantages perçus de la famille nucléaire.
Mots clés:
- Polyamour,
- pluriparentalité,
- diversité sexuelle,
- coming out,
- enfants
Abstract
Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is a concept that encompasses all forms of intimate relationships in which partners allow themselves, in full transparency, to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships beyond the traditional dyadic couple. To date, little research has been devoted to the family in this non-traditional context. Based on 34 semi-structured interviews with Canadian parents in polyamorous or open relationships, we explore in this article how they combine CNM and family. Specifically, we examine the reasons behind parents’ choice to inform (or not) their children of their relationship type and to integrate their intimate partners into their family life. Interviews highlight four key themes influencing parents’ coming out to their children : 1) social/legal recognition of relationship/family diversity ; 2) children’s (in)ability to understand issues related to sexuality and intimate relationships ; 3) parent’s (un)certainty about their intimate relationship choices ; and 4) perceived limits or benefits of the nuclear family.
Keywords:
- Polyamory,
- multi-parents’ family,
- sexual diversity,
- coming out,
- children
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